Midlife Crisis -Thirtysomething
I am thirty-something while I am exploring the alleys of Venice with some thoughts in my mind. I am asking myself what I have learned during my time of life. It may seem that I am having a midlife crisis but I don’t. I am still much more away from my 40 or 50. But, on the other hand, I can tell you that there’s nothing is cliche or trite about midlife crisis. Indeed, I truly believe that everybody has to question themself in some point of their life and to face with themself for good. This is a self-reflection and nothing wrong with it. In fact, these days, the old midlife crisis is more likely to be called a midlife transition and it’s not all bad.
And, now I am thirty-something and I am questioning myself. I have spent about 30 years on the earth and here is what I have learned from life :
Above all, your background and circumstances may have influenced who you are, but you are responsible for who you become. Be patient because it takes you a long time to become the person you want to be. In the hope that this will happen, you invest a huge time and put a lot of effort on it. In the end, that is the best investment for yourself.
Never say something negative about yourself. The most compelling evidence is that others treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Indeed, you will hear your own eco.
Fear will be present whenever you want to get out of your comfort zone. If you want to move forward and transform your life you have to keep on going. Have you ever heard about “FEAR = False Expectation Appearing Real.” ? Keep it in mind.
Trust your instinct which is something you acquire through experience. Don’t hesitate when you make your predictions. You may mistake but there is nothing wrong with it. Just admit it and fix it. Mistakes allow you to strengthen your instincts to survive.
Do not a favor someone unless you are asked. Unfortunately, human being is ungrateful by its nature. If you take an initiative to do a favor unless you are asked, you just waste your time. A favor has a real value when it is appreciated.
Smoking is disgusting. Quitting smoking is the best thing you can do to improve your life, health and BUDGET.
Travel more. Save money and do a quick research to find out how to travel in a budget. You don’t need a thick wallet to see the world. Travelling will help you to be an open-minded person. Today we travel more comfortably, more punctually, and above all faster than in the past.
Adopt an open-minded approach to try to understand others while you discuss with them. This perspective will allow you to listen carefully and respectfully to others and try to see things from their point of view. In return for this, you will gain their respect.
Be honest with yourself and others in terms of how you tolerate your interpersonal relations. If you are dishonest in your relationships you will damage your professional life and will have serious effects on your state of mental health. For the simple reason that, if you don’t have an exceptional IQ level or a strong memory, an ordinary person actually can understand what you try to do. Do not underestimate the capacity of others.
Do things immediately which take less than one minute. Indeed this attitude can change your daily life. Moreover, there are small things you can do every day that can be major game changers in terms of health and happiness.
Respect your body. Eat well, sleep well. You will be never younger and prettier than as you are. However, never forget that you will always be unique in any age. Age is just an indicator which shows the time of your journey on the earth. Love yourself and be your own best friend.
Finally “DO WHAT YOU CAN’T. You don’t have to listen anyone because in this new world NO ONE KNOWS ANYTHING.
Sérénité” from “Landing” by Art Yenta.